How to Deal With Friends Leaving You

Let me preface this post by admitting that I have not given justice to the blog name. Lazily, I would type out a rhyme, call it a vent and publish it in an “educational” blog.

 So here’s some actual virtue for the week:

One of many inexorable faces of life is that each of us have got our own personal lives. This reality hits us from time to time, when we grow apart from friends. What one should understand is that life is a bitch. Fortunately, there are enough fun people to hang out with. If your best friend leaves you, simply talk to other dudes that you’ve always felt were cool but just did not have the time to talk with. As you meet more people, classify them (in increasing order of friendship) as acquaintances, friends, mates and besties. Give time to grow your clique and have a distinct circle. Do this every time you lose friends. Replace your best friend with a mate, your mate with your friend and so on. Next time, you won’t feel a gaping hole.

By replace, I don’t mean to just delete all the memories of your previous friends like you would in a romantic relationship. Cherish those friends, and actively pursue them from time to time. But if they do not take the same effort, find new friends.

Additionally, focus on your family. They’re the friends that don’t go away; I’m sure every individual understands this at some point in their twenties.

Invest in yourself. Read a book, watch a movie, and partake in all those personality developing activities. Read the news, have an opinion (but don’t see politics everywhere. I’m looking at you, family dinners) and shape your personality, by being more interesting. Stand out, put an effort to stand out. Do not follow the norm lazily, even if it means you do not find yourself in a category. Rather, make yourself a new category.

It is important that you love yourself. Not only will this self confidence attract new people, but you will always have yourself to fall back on. More on that in another post.

With these three mechanisms in place (new friends, family, yourself), losing friends will not seem to be that much of an issue anymore. I also suggest forging ‘online’ relationships with those special friends. Next time they move away, you both will still have an active snapchat streak or weekly video calling routine